Parents Who Are Bad Role Models

Father and Teenage Son Involved In a Shootout That Left One Male Dead and Another Injured

A child’s character is mold as he grows from childhood to adult, by those who have a strong influence in his life. 

Parents need to accept accountability, and responsibility, for teaching their children how to behave toward others.

Unfortunately, we have some parents who are setting bad examples for their children, by engaging in bad behavior with them.

Case in Point: 

A 52-year-old father and his teenage son were involved in a shootout, that left a 24-year-old male dead, and a 19-year-old male injured. This incident occurred, in the early hours on a Saturday morning, when the two young men along with some friends went to the home of the 52-year-old man, and engaged in an argument with his 19-year-old son.

When they drove away, the father and his son pursued them in their vehicle. At some point, they engaged in a confrontation and the shootout occurred. The father was charged with murdering the 24-year-old male, and shooting the 19-year-old male.

*Good parenting molds a boy’s character that will guide him, as he grows from his boyhood into a man. The teachings he receive from those who possesses good characteristic traits, are passed on to him. He in return, will pass them to others.

Questions:

        1.   How do you suggest the father should have handled this situation?

         2.   What example did the father set for his son?  

       Written by: Ellen J. Barrier

Father Murdered His Children to Avoid Paying Child Support

A 28-year-old father was charged with murdering his 14-month-old daughters, to avoid paying child support. The children were killed by their father after he purchased a life insurance policy on each child, and named himself the beneficiary the following day, after his employer started deducting $800 per month, for child support from his paycheck of $2,000.

History:

The father was presently married to another woman, at the time he killed his daughters.

Prior to killing his daughters, the father had been notified that he owed $400 in a second child support case, and a third child support case was pending.

Every parent should try their best to accept their financial responsibilities for their children. A child should never be treated as their parents property.

To make a child feel as though they are property that is a burden for their parent, will cause the child to feel unloved. 

Parents who do not try to make their child comfortable with both parents by sharing everything equal if possible, and treating each other civil, are causing unhappiness to their child who will have unpleasant memories of the parents.

Written by: Ellen J. Barrier

The End of a Gambler’s Road

It was the lies and secrets that resulted in a tragic ending of 16 years of marriage. A husband  is left alone to raise two very young children. His wife is dead, and he is broke. He is concerned that he and their children will not have a place to live.

The Story Unfolded

The father of the two children was at work in the early morning hours, on this particular day; when he was contacted by a detective who told him, “You need to come home.”

Upon his arrival at his home, he saw a moving van, and squad cars in his drive way.  A detective informed him, that his wife was dead. He was told that the sheriff was there to evict him from his home. He discovered that his mortgage was 17 months past-due.

 When he looked at his financial statements, he discovered his wife had paid gambling debts, with the money he had given her to pay their bills. All of the money that he had in his savings account was gone.

He said he thought he knew his wife of 16 years. Further stating, “I had no idea what was going on. It all hit me like a brick. First my wife is gone-then my house."

Before his wife committed suicide, she took their children to school; then returned home, and  left a note taped to the front door. Her note stated, “To whom it may concern”

In her note, she informed that her husband knew nothing about the house repossession, and told how to contact him at work.

The woman, who was a compulsive gambler, drove to a nearby mall parking lot; where she crawled into the back seat of her car, and placed a Smith and Wesson .357 magnum behind her right ear and fired.

A relationship built on lies and secrets, is like building a house on a crumbling foundation. It is destined to be destroyed.

“Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her own hands.” King Solomon 

Written by Ellen J. Barrier

The Rage of a Jealous Woman

Headlines In The News

A 23-year-old beauty queen crowned her successor; then armed herself with a pistol, butcher knife, lighter fluid and a hammer and traveled 250 miles to the home of her boyfriend’s girlfriend’s parents to kill the girlfriend and her parents. The 23-year-old beauty queen discovered her boyfriend was seeing another woman when he did not attend the final pageant.

When she arrived at the other woman parents’ home, she attacked her father with the hammer. The father, who knows martial arts, placed the beauty queen in a headlock position and disarmed her.

“Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy.” King Solomon

Where there is Love, there is Freedom
Neither Love nor Freedom can exist in a relationship with a jealousy person. Uncontrolled jealousy is a spiritual weakness that produces; anger, envy, hate, lying, and mischievous thoughts that causes violent acts; destroying others, and self destruction. This behavior is neurotic. Those who become involved in a relationship with a person that want to treat them as their property will lose their freedom; because of the possessiveness behavior of this individual, who do not love them.

Written by Ellen J. Barrier

He Says he Love me But I Am Not Sure

Headlines in the News

Woman Plans to Marry the Man Who Battered Her

A 23-year-old female who has been stabbed repeatedly, arms broken with a hammer by her boyfriend who is also, 23- years -of -age, plans are to marry him in spite of attempts to murder her.

A 34-year-old man beat his 33-year-old wife until she became unconscious; then, placed her in the trunk of a car, and drove to another state where he admitted her into a hospital; she remain in a  coma.

It is easy to get involved in such relationships; but it is difficult to get out. Some women never get out, despite a restraining order.  A woman was murdered in the presence of police officers by her husband, who disregarded the restraining order she had against him. Her husband confronted her at a shopping center; when the police officers arrived, she pleaded with them to save her life; the man ignored the officers commands to put his gun down. Instead, he shot her several times killing her, and then took his own life.

Some women make bold statements such as what they will not take from a man. That is easier said than done. One can end up sleeping with their enemy. (The one whom they have a relationship with)

In the novel “The Price We Must Pay For Our Father’s Sins” when Priscilla informed her husband Jim, she was going to divorce him, she realized a divorce would be useless, because he was never going to allow her to be free from him.

It is impossible to know the mind of any one. A person can appear to be a very loving individual, and actually hate the one who love them.

Written by Ellen J. Barrier 

Amazing Architectural Designs

 Esplanade-Theaters 

Built in 2002:

Located: on prime waterfront land on the shores of Marina Bay, Singapore 

The unique architectural design has been said to have an appearance similar to either a durian (a tropical fruit) or the eyes of a fly. Hence, the building is colloquially known to locals as "The Durian" or "The Big Durian"

These are amazing architectural designs to view. 

Life is Beautiful

 Life is A Process of Changes; happiness and sadness

Life is beautiful.

Life is Happiness.

The butterflies represent the beauty of life and the ever changing process it brings as we take each step forward. Along our journey through life, we grow from our youth to adult years. Life is an experience we embrace because of the beauty we enjoy with family and friends throughout the years.

__ Ellen J. Barrier