Violent Man Ordered to Marry Girlfriend

A judge has ordered a 25-year-old man who was convicted of punching his girlfriend in the mouth, to marry her within nine months or risk being jailed. The judged stated, "I happen to believe in traditional values: boy meets girl, boy ask girl out, boy and girl go steady, boy and girl get married, and then, the boy and girl start having a family." The man pleaded no contest to domestic violence.

The judge gave the 25-year-old man a suspended four months sentence, fined him $100, placed him on nine months' probation, and ordered him to undergo counseling.

Weakness in the Justice System

We need stronger laws to protect women and children against sexual and violent acts committed against them.This is a worldwide problem.

Questions:

1. Should the judge have ordered this man to marry his girlfriend?
2. How do you feel about the judge's thoughts on relationships?

Written by Ellen J. Barrier

The Price We Must Pay For Our Father’s Sins is a heartfelt story that deals with sex, power, and violence. Such men use their power to commit violent acts against innocent people without remorse. http://www.myebook.com/elllenbarrier/ 

The End of a Gambler’s Road

It was the lies and secrets that resulted in a tragic ending of 16 years of marriage. A husband  is left alone to raise two very young children. His wife is dead, and he is broke. He is concerned that he and their children will not have a place to live.

The Story Unfolded

The father of the two children was at work in the early morning hours, on this particular day; when he was contacted by a detective who told him, “You need to come home.”

Upon his arrival at his home, he saw a moving van, and squad cars in his drive way.  A detective informed him, that his wife was dead. He was told that the sheriff was there to evict him from his home. He discovered that his mortgage was 17 months past-due.

 When he looked at his financial statements, he discovered his wife had paid gambling debts, with the money he had given her to pay their bills. All of the money that he had in his savings account was gone.

He said he thought he knew his wife of 16 years. Further stating, “I had no idea what was going on. It all hit me like a brick. First my wife is gone-then my house."

Before his wife committed suicide, she took their children to school; then returned home, and  left a note taped to the front door. Her note stated, “To whom it may concern”

In her note, she informed that her husband knew nothing about the house repossession, and told how to contact him at work.

The woman, who was a compulsive gambler, drove to a nearby mall parking lot; where she crawled into the back seat of her car, and placed a Smith and Wesson .357 magnum behind her right ear and fired.

A relationship built on lies and secrets, is like building a house on a crumbling foundation. It is destined to be destroyed.

“Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her own hands.” King Solomon 

Written by Ellen J. Barrier

The Rage of a Jealous Woman

Headlines In The News

A 23-year-old beauty queen crowned her successor; then armed herself with a pistol, butcher knife, lighter fluid and a hammer and traveled 250 miles to the home of her boyfriend’s girlfriend’s parents to kill the girlfriend and her parents. The 23-year-old beauty queen discovered her boyfriend was seeing another woman when he did not attend the final pageant.

When she arrived at the other woman parents’ home, she attacked her father with the hammer. The father, who knows martial arts, placed the beauty queen in a headlock position and disarmed her.

“Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy.” King Solomon

Where there is Love, there is Freedom
Neither Love nor Freedom can exist in a relationship with a jealousy person. Uncontrolled jealousy is a spiritual weakness that produces; anger, envy, hate, lying, and mischievous thoughts that causes violent acts; destroying others, and self destruction. This behavior is neurotic. Those who become involved in a relationship with a person that want to treat them as their property will lose their freedom; because of the possessiveness behavior of this individual, who do not love them.

Written by Ellen J. Barrier

He Says he Love me But I Am Not Sure

Headlines in the News

Woman Plans to Marry the Man Who Battered Her

A 23-year-old female who has been stabbed repeatedly, arms broken with a hammer by her boyfriend who is also, 23- years -of -age, plans are to marry him in spite of attempts to murder her.

A 34-year-old man beat his 33-year-old wife until she became unconscious; then, placed her in the trunk of a car, and drove to another state where he admitted her into a hospital; she remain in a  coma.

It is easy to get involved in such relationships; but it is difficult to get out. Some women never get out, despite a restraining order.  A woman was murdered in the presence of police officers by her husband, who disregarded the restraining order she had against him. Her husband confronted her at a shopping center; when the police officers arrived, she pleaded with them to save her life; the man ignored the officers commands to put his gun down. Instead, he shot her several times killing her, and then took his own life.

Some women make bold statements such as what they will not take from a man. That is easier said than done. One can end up sleeping with their enemy. (The one whom they have a relationship with)

In the novel “The Price We Must Pay For Our Father’s Sins” when Priscilla informed her husband Jim, she was going to divorce him, she realized a divorce would be useless, because he was never going to allow her to be free from him.

It is impossible to know the mind of any one. A person can appear to be a very loving individual, and actually hate the one who love them.

Written by Ellen J. Barrier 

The Lovers Game

The Lovers Game is a risky and dangerous one to play. It can cause serious harm or death to others as well as to the players. In this game, the players lose. Nothing good can come of evil. To play with someone else’s emotions is a psychologically game that can harm someone’s health both mentally and physically. And can cause loss of life.

Case In Point:

Husband Beheaded Wife’s Lover

A 26-year-old Army sergeant killed his wife’s lover and brought his head to her. The wife is said to have been dating her husband’s friend and became pregnant by him. When her husband found out about the affair and her pregnancy, he became enraged.  He reportedly, confronted his wife’s lover and showed him no mercy. According to the report, he stabbed the man 15 times, and decapitated his head.

The report further informed: (both men were said to be in the military)

The husband went to the hospital where his wife were being treated for complications with her pregnancy and sat on her bed holding a gym bag. He removed the dead man’s head from the gym bag and while holding it with both hands; he said to his wife, “Look, the SPC is here! He’ll sleep with you every night. Only you won’t sleep at night. I studied, I planned this. I calculated this. I did this for you.”


Written by Ellen J. Barrier

Suggested to Read: Self- Restraint from Sexual Temptation
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Self- Restraint from Sexual Temptation

For at the window of my house I looked through my casement,

And beheld among the simple one, I discerned among the youths,

A young man void of understanding,

Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house,

In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night:

And behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtil of heart.

(She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house:

Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)

So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him,

I have peace offerings with me;

this day have I payed my vows.

Therefore, came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee.

I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt.

I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.

Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves.

For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey:

He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed.

With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.

He goeth after her straight way, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks;

Till a dart strikes through his liver as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.

Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth.

Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her path.

For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.

Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.

Source of information: King Solomon

Proverbs 7:6-27 (K.J.V)

 Questions:

How would you describe this woman?

Is there anything about the woman in this story that is different in her life style from some of  today's women?

Is this woman single or married?

Would you characterize this woman as a ‘player’?

Does it appear that she and her husband have an open marriage?

What is your opinion on open marriages?

What are your views about people who allow themselves to get involved in a relationship of this kind?

Is there anything about such relationship that can lead to harm?

What advice would you offer to both males and females that might be of some help in preventing themselves from getting into the situation that the people in this story are involved in?

__Ellen J. Barrier

Author

Do you want to be free from a negative situation in your life?

There are many negative situations that oftentimes occurs which we have to deal with. Some are sickness, failed relationships, losses, and all kind of things that can cause worry and stress. In the story below we can understand, there are times when we need help that reaches far beyond our abilities.









Story as told:

When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him,

"Wilt thou be made whole?"

The impotent man answered him, "Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool: but while I am coming, another step down before me."

Jesus said unto him, "Rise, take up thy bed and walk."

And immediately the man was made whole, and took up his bed, and walked.

John 5:5-8 (K.J.V)

What this Story Teaches

God has compassion for each of us and cares deeply about our health and all of our needs. This man had been suffering from a disease that left him unable to be self dependent. He was very weak and needed someone to carry him. But he desperately wanted to be cured. He worked hard at trying to get to the healing water. He never gave up. When Jesus saw him, he knew his condition, and that he wanted to be free from the disease that had attacked his body for 38 years.

 Regardless of the situation, God has the power to change it. If it is sickness, loss of income or whatever the case may be he can deliver. An angel blessed the water in the pool during a certain season. Afterward, whoever entered the pool first was cured from whatever disease they had. The man was too ill to get there in time to enter the pool. Someone else always got there before him. That was the hinder for him receiving the cure in the water for his disease. Although, it is human nature to get frustrated, after having worked hard to see opportunities keep passing by, one must never give up.

Things occurs that hinders people from receiving cures for their health problems and from reaching their goals, or repairing a failed relationship.

But we know this, when the master of all cures comes on the scene, he can deliver healing.

Do you want to be free from a negative situation in your life?  God Can Make It Happen For You.

__Ellen J. Barrier
Author