Broken Trust

Damage Caused and the Family It Separated

“Trust compared to a valuable stone that has been shattered, cannot be restored to its original form.”

__ Ellen J. Barrier

If someone commit a wrongful act against you, and you forgive him or her, does it mean you should trust that person?

Story:                        Brother Sexually Assault His Sister and Shows No Remorse

On this particular day, Amnon who is sexually attracted to his sister Tamar, has raped her by tricking their father into allowing her to be alone with him through false pretense. Amnon pretended to be sick, in order to carry out his deceitful plan: When his father came to visit him, he said to him, "I pray thee, let Tamar my sister come, and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat at her hand." Then David sent home to Tamar, saying "Go now to your brother Amnon house and dress him meat."

So Tamar went to her brother Amnon house: and he was laid down. And she took flour and kneaded it, and made cakes in his sight and did bake the cakes. And she took a pan and poured them out before him: but he refused to eat. And Amnon sent all the men out.  And he said to Tamar, “Bring the meat into the chamber, that I may eat of your hand.” And she took the cakes to him.  He then, took hold of her, and said, “Come lie with me my sister.” And she replied, “No, my brother, do not force me.” She tried desperately to convince Amnon that such and act was considered to be against their family values. 

She asked him, “Whither shall I cause my shame to go?”  Ignoring her, he forced himself on her and raped her.

After Amnon had raped his sister Tamar, he treated her with cruelty: She was banished from his home. Then Amnon hated her exceedingly: so that the hatred he now had for her, was greater than the love wherewith he loved her.  And Amnon said to her, “Arise, be gone.”

And Tamar said to Amnon, “There is no cause: This evil in sending me away is greater than the other that you did to me.”  In response, he kicked her out of his house and locked the door behind her.

On that day Tamar being a virgin, was wearing a garment of multi-colors, which was the tradition of her culture.  Having become a victim of sexual assault with cruelty, she became heartbroken and in pain and sorrow: and Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment and laid her hand on her head crying.

 Tamar’s Brother Absalom Comes to Her Defense

When Absalom saw Tamar he asked her, "Has Amnon been with you?" Then he said to her, "Hold now your peace my sister, he is your brother." And he took her to live with him. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom home.

The Damage Caused

When David heard of the wrongful act Amnon had done to Tamar, he was very wrath.

Absalom hated Amnon, and refused to communicate with him. And  he planned to kill Amnon for raping their sister, Tamar.

The Separation of Family

As planned, Absalom had his brother Amnon, killed for raping Tamar.

Two years later, after Amnon had raped Tamar, Absalom had a Ball-Hazar, and invited Amnon with their father's consent. He instructed his men to watch Amnon for intoxication of wine, and at his command to “Kill him” further informing his men, to show no fear, to be courageous and valiant.

After Absalom had Amnon put to death, he fled to Geshur, and was there three years. And the soul of his father, King David longed to see him, but refused to visit him. He was very angry with Absalom for the death of Amnon. 

King David decided to invite Absalom back home conditionally: He was to go to his own house. He was not permitted to see his father’s face. After having been back home for two years, Absalom became disappointed with his father for distancing himself from him, and sent him this message:

“Wherefore, am I come from Geshur? It had been good for me to have been there still: now let me see the king’s face; and if there be any iniquity in me, let him kill me. “

Trust

Trust is the foundation every successful relationship is built upon.

When trust is broken, that relationship is unstable, it has become weaken.

The survival of a broken trust relationship is questionable.

Written by Ellen J. Barrier

Story Background: II Samuel 13 & 14 chapters

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Where Did I Go Wrong?

There comes a time when our wrongdoings will confront us, and force us to ask ourselves, Where did I go wrong? The person who refuses to live by the moral values, he or she was taught and deliberately choose a wrong path in life, will be haunted with that question. And they will search for the answer.


“Death is the Inevitable Price We Must Pay.”  Tony said.

“How can a dead person reach beyond the grave and continue to destroy and dominate someone else’s life?” Priscilla asked.

Priscilla was a beautiful young woman who graduated from law school, with a promising future in the field of law. However, on the day she became Mrs. Jim Elliott, every one of her dreams were destroyed. Jim Elliott was not an ordinary man. He was possessed with demons, a man without a conscious. But, Priscilla didn't realize this horrible truth about her husband, until it was too late. She had been warned by her parents to not get involved with Jim Elliott. Despite their warning, she married him, knowing very little about him. She too ask the question, Where did I go wrong?

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God is Watching You

Treat others the way you would want to be treated.

What goes around comes around.

You will reap what you sow.

“Even as I have seen, they that plow iniquity and sow wickedness, reap the same.” (Job 4:8)

God holds each individual accountable, for wrongful acts they commit.

Be kind to others, and God will be kind to you. If you commit evil acts against others, the wrath of God will be upon you.

__Ellen J. Barrier

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When the Wrong Judgmental Call Is Made

In the case where the life of another individual depends upon sound judgment, the person making that decision is accountable for the out-come of the call made.

It is expected of those who are in positions to hold the lives of others in their hands, to make the right judgmental call to save a life or to prevent harm.  There are too many errors made by those who hold such positions due to poor judgment, or an uncaring attitude that results in loss of lives in the medical field of science and elsewhere.

The Wrong Call

This is a medical judgmental call that perhaps cost the life of a patient.

Her physician wrote a standing order:

Give Tylenol #3 every four hours.

This patient had been taking Tylenol #3 for several weeks as ordered.  She had become dependent upon this medication, and would ask for it prior to the time of which her doctor prescribed.

Case in Point

8:00 p.m.  Patient was given Tylenol #3 per doctor’s order.

10:00 p.m.  This patient is asking for another Tylenol #3. The medication is denied based on her doctor’s orders. The patient is angry. She states she is in too much pain to wait.

10:15 p.m.  I received a phone call from this patient’s daughter. She stated, her mother is being denied her medication. And that if she does not get it immediately, she will come to the facility and make sure that she does. The daughter was told this patient has been given Tylenol #3 at 8:00 p.m., according to her doctor’s orders. And that she will receive the Tylenol #3 at 12:00 a.m., per her doctor’s orders.

10:30 p.m.  I received a phone call from the patient’s doctor. He stated, the daughter of this patient has called him. And that she is very upset about her mother being in pain and needing her medication. I informed the doctor that Tylenol #3 was given to this patient at 8:00 p.m., according to his orders, to give every four hours. And that based on his orders, Tylenol #3 would be given at 12:00 a. m. He said, “Go ahead and give her the Tylenol #3 now. “ Per doctor’s order, Tylenol #3 was given at 10:50 p.m.

Three days later this patient became severely ill. Her diagnosis was said to be a poison found in her blood.  Following that diagnosis shortly thereafter, she expired due to what was called, cardiac failure.

About This Medication:  Acetaminophen and Codeine (Combined) Tylenol 3

Side Effects: addiction

Painkiller, Narcotic

As with any narcotic, if taken incorrectly, it can be harmful,

Written by Ellen J. Barrier

Trusting God in the Midst of a Battle is a Challenge

The things that challenge our trust in God also, challenge our confidence within ourselves. These are the challenges that comes to weaken our hope and test our faith.

When facing challenges that are so furious and you feel the intense of the force from their aggression against you, the battlefield becomes yours, and your enemies. You seek for Hope and it appears to be too far to reach. You call for Faith, and it does not answer.

Instead, you see a stormy sky filled with a horrible darkness, and hears the loud sounds of thunder that shakes the ground upon which you stand. You look for Strength, and you see the fiery veins of lightning hitting the ground, and the destruction it causes come near you from each hit that shakes every nerve in your entire being. You desire Peace but instead, the challenges increase, and you hear a voice from within you cry out to God for help; the sky clears, and the sun appears.

There comes a time when we have to place the battle in God’s hands, and wait to see his glorious power prevail on our behalf.

My personal thoughts

Regardless of the challenges, the sun will always shine again, Hope will return, and Faith will conquer.  We become stronger and wiser with each battle from the challenges that are placed upon us. Within ourselves a special kind of trust and peace dwells in our heart and soul, that gives us confidence.

“They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength”. The prophet Isaiah

__ Ellen J. Barrier

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Should The World Be Concerned About A Deadly Virus Outbreak?

In the year of February 1996, scientists revealed that countless numbers of deadly viruses are lurking in the world, that they have no cures for. These scientists warned that, “At sometime, somewhere, there will be an outbreak that will destroy the entire world.” They informed that “One drop of infected blood, can wipe out a whole city.”

These scientists further stated, that the United States has come face to face with the full blown viral crises that there are no cures for.

Deadly Viruses

Kikwit, Zaire ___ May, 1995: 600,000 people were placed under quarantine due to fear of an outbreak of the Ebola Virus. The virus was said to have killed more than 100 people. There is no cure for this virus.

The Ebola virus has continued to spread to other areas of the world and destroy thousands of lives.

Symptoms of the Ebola Virus According to This Report

Sudden shock

Hemorrhaging from every orifice of the body

Fevers

Vomiting

Australia___April , 1995: A new virus called Morbillivirus that is related to measles in humans and distemper in cattle, dogs, seals, and porpoises, killed 14 horses and their trainer. According to scientists, this virus is an example of a newly “emerging infection that has joined the Hantavirus, Tuberculosis, and others as potential new threats to world health.

__ Ellen J. Barrier

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Women and Girls Suffering in Silence Because of Fear

#Domestic Violence

This is the story of every female, both young and older who is in a relationship with someone who abuses them physically and sexually; and torments them psychologically.

When Help Comes Too Late or Never Comes

These are the sad souls of females who lives in a prison locked behind the corridors of fear of their captor, suffering in silence. Many of whom have children who are affected by the violence within their environment. These women know if they expose the person who they fear, they will suffer a harsh punishment that could result in the loss of a child, their own life, or both.

Children living in domestic violence are affected with unhappy memories that cannot be erased.

From the Story: Life with Father

“Life with my father was a time of which I have no good memories. The one thing that often comes to my mind when I think of my father is the day he showed me a gun and said, I am going to kill your mother with this.” the son of a battered woman.

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Written by Ellen J. Barrier

Award: Certificate of Appreciation Awarded to Ellen J. Barrier on March 8, 2013 from

Amnesty International for commitment to the crucial fight to end violence against women and girls